It’s not your fault

When something goes wrong, our deep need to explain what caused the problem to occur is triggered. We always have a reason for everything that happened. Surprisingly, this reason rarely connects to us. May be a situation or another person remains at the centre of this reason. We hardly own our mistakes. It happens unconsciously.

Blaming is a hidden defence mechanism. When we feel that we are under attack, this mechanism is automatically activated. And to want to get rid of the bad feeling, we project that feeling at others. Blame is not an attack on someone rather it is a defence. This hidden defence mechanism is our biggest enemy. It is solely responsible for over 90% of the chaotic situations of our personal or professional life.

Unlike other games, the more often we play the blame game, the more we lose. The challenge is we don’t know what we don’t know.

If anything doesn’t go well, it’s not your fault but it might be your responsibility. That’s a fork in the road on the way to becoming a professional.

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You don’t see it well

Do you sometimes feel intellectually inferior to others? And, on top of that, do you feel as though there is nothing you can do about it – as though some people are just more creative, or have better problem-solving skills?

How we look at and interpret life is incredibly important to getting the most out of it.

Six wise blind men are trying to describe an elephant. The first man touches the elephant’s ear and says that an elephant is like a thick blanket. The second touches a tusk and decides that the animal is sharp and pointy. The third touches the leg and concludes that an elephant is like a tree trunk. The fourth touches the side and believes it’s like a wall. The fifth feels the tail and imagines a rope. And the sixth man puts his hands on the elephant’s head, which reminds him of a rock.

They all have different perspectives, and though none of them is exactly wrong, each misses the full picture by focusing only on particular parts. We must broaden our own perspectives if we wish to avoid the same fate.

Recent studies have discovered that the average person only uses around 2 percent of their mental powers. In other words, 98 percent of our potential power lies idle. But how much potential is this?

if everyone could use all of their brain cells, each person could generate more ideas than there are molecules in the universe!

Luckily, each of us can tap into this unused brainpower. To start, all we have to do is shift our perspective.

“We do not see the world as it is, but as we are” – Anais Nin

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Create a lasting memory – extended

In the previous post, you learnt some effective techniques to create a memory that sticks. Here are few more – simple yet equally effective:

Primacy and recency

Something you learn right at the start of a lesson tends to stick in your mind for longer. So do things which come right at the end of a session. What does it mean for you? Well, now you know these principles, you might want to plan your learning differently. You might place the most important things at the beginning and end of each lesson, leaving the middle part for things which are less crucial.

To make good use of primacy and recency, employ the Pomodoro technique. This method involves breaking up your work or studying into 25-minute chunks of productivity called Pomodoros. Each Pomodoro is followed by a 5-minute break. It’s as simple as setting up a timer!

Pomodoros can work even better if you combine them with another technique, something known as active recall. It involves reviewing some material and then immediately checking to ensure that it has sunk in. To do this, simply close your book or pause the video you’re learning from and write down everything you’ve learned so far.

Visual imagery

Visualization has been one of the best techniques to train memory. So how do you use this? The best approach is to learn to associate words, numbers, or, indeed, anything else you have to memorize, with visual imagery. Let’s look at an example.

Consider these words: fire hydrant, balloon, battery, barrel, board, and diamond. If you were asked to memorize this word list, you might do so by repeating the words over and over again. But this method is ineffective. Before too long you’ll probably forget all you learned.

Instead, try creating a crazy story about the words. You might picture a fire hydrant that’s being carried up into the air by balloons. But the balloons are being pushed by batteries, and those batteries sit inside huge barrels. The whole device – batteries inside of barrels aimed at balloons – is launched into the air by a big board, like a seesaw. And, finally, that board is supported up by a huge diamond. See how much better the words are now cemented in your mind?

Practice is the master of all techniques. Practice it to perfect it.

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Creating a lasting memory

Many people think that they have either a “good memory” or a “bad memory.” But instead, you may want to think that you have a trained memory or, perhaps, an untrained one. So how do you train your memory? Here are the few amazingly effective techniques:

Smell helps you rekindle

We often associate smells with memories. Think about how the aroma of a particular spice might take you back to your grandmother’s kitchen. This is just one example of how great smells are at bringing memories to the forefront of our brains.

Now you know this, try using smells the next time you’re studying for an exam or preparing for a presentation. Rub some essential oil on your wrist when you’re learning. Then, repeat right before your exam or presentation. You may find that the smell helps you rekindle your memory!

The loci method

This trick can help you prepare for presentations. To use it, first identify the ten key points you want to talk about. Next, imagine a place or a room you know well, and consider a path through it.

Now, assign each of your talking points to a different object or place in the room – your bedroom lamp, for instance, might represent your keynote. Finally, practice your presentation, using the walkthrough of your locations, or loci, as a guide.

With a well-trained memory, you’ll be well on your way to learning a new language, giving great presentations, or simply becoming a well-versed expert.

You will learn few more memory techniques in the next post.

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Do you choose or decide?

Is there a difference between “Choice” and “Decision”?

Decisions are often confused with choices. Both have been synonymously used for long.

Choice is selection from alternatives. It’s more like selecting blue over black. Choices are mindset, absence of reason.

Decisions are complex, requires explanation. Choices are easy to make. Your most decisions are choices. Do not qualify to be decisions. The reason is straight: biases.

When we choose, we do not challenge our biases. Decision requires elimination of biases. It’s simple: decisions or biases. Both cannot exist together.

You may have no idea you’re under the influence of a bias that’s distorting your way of thinking. You are trapped if you don’t learn to remove.

The world/life offers you choices. Choices always have a hidden decision that you never notice. You pick it because it is convenient. It’s not your decision. Your set of alternatives are still untouched. You are locked in. Choose or decide.   

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Busy vs. productive

Are you busy or productive? You are either busy or productive. There is nothing called “busy and productive”.

Being productive is being purposeful. The goal is to be in a consistent state of doing what matters, instead of a consistent state of working.

You can be purposefully busy. When you are handling priorities, you are purposefully busy. This is a good state to be in.

Purpose brings meaning, rest is a trap. Figure out the difference between “Urgent” and “Important”. If you can distinct, you are productive. Being productive is being systematic. Busy are distracted.

Tim Kreider writes in the conclusion of The “Busy” Trap:
“Life is too short to be busy.”

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Drive Growth with 5 Core Values

When you adopt a growth mindset, you become more adaptive and resilient. Your values are the drivers of your growth. Here are 5 core values that can make a great impact:

Innovation that matters

Invent and create solutions where the company wins, the customer wins, the community wins.

Be futuristic

Make sustainable decisions that last longer than you will.

Promote integrity

Strive for authentic information and relationship.

Value network

Create meaningful connections every day.

Make an impact

Leave people better than you found them.

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