When something goes wrong, our deep need to explain what caused the problem to occur is triggered. We always have a reason for everything that happened. Surprisingly, this reason rarely connects to us. May be a situation or another person remains at the centre of this reason. We hardly own our mistakes. It happens unconsciously.
Blaming is a hidden defence mechanism. When we feel that we are under attack, this mechanism is automatically activated. And to want to get rid of the bad feeling, we project that feeling at others. Blame is not an attack on someone rather it is a defence. This hidden defence mechanism is our biggest enemy. It is solely responsible for over 90% of the chaotic situations of our personal or professional life.
Unlike other games, the more often we play the blame game, the more we lose. The challenge is we don’t know what we don’t know.
If anything doesn’t go well, it’s not your fault but it might be your responsibility. That’s a fork in the road on the way to becoming a professional.